Queer Parenting Joy and Grief
A therapeutic painting circle for queer parents,
caretakers and those parenting a queer child
It is the best of times, it is the worst of times. When you look at the news, you feel:
Scared. Outraged. Overwhelmed. Brokenhearted. Worried. Fiercely Protective.
When you fully tune into your glorious child, you feel:
So proud. Awe as you witness their realness and goodness. Amazed at their self-knowing.
And as you are feeling all this grief and joy, you might not know many people who get what your parenting life is like.
How does the idea of being in a circle of people who have walked a mile in your shoes sound to you?
Queer Parenting Joy and Grief is a therapeutic painting circle just for queer families. This circle is for you if:
- You are a queer parent processing both the typical challenges of parenting and the deeply unjust attacks on your own and your child’s rights and dignity.
- You are a parent or caretaker trying to figure out how to nurture and protect your queer child.
- There is a part of you who knows that you need a different kind of care right now to balance all the new challenges we are living through, but you’re not sure what that is.
- You feel good when you connect with your queer community through creative expression—clothes, makeup, dance, song, paint—part your queer joy is expression.
Here’s my take on why doing art with other parents and caregivers who really get you helps you both process your challenges and better nurture and protect your child the way you want.
Knowing yourself makes it easier to parent
In this kind of painting, all you need to do is be honest about what feels most alive to you from moment to moment and express this on a piece of paper, which requires absolutely no artistic experience. What matters most while you paint is meeting your needs. This practice helps you know your (evolving) self. When you know yourself, it is easier to be in alignment with what you most want for your child.
Discovering you have all the skills you need
When you give a four-year-old paper, paint and a brush, that child will let their brush spiral and dance, they will paint the people, plants, animals and places that matter most to them. This kind of expression is good for you. It is a relief to be real. Honest expression releases both tension from the body and stuck feelings. This kind of painting leaves you lighter.
Somewhere around middle school, most of us come to doubt our powerful capacity to freely express. The simple social agreements that are part of every This Art Heals circle makes it safer for this capacity to take lead again.
Discovering you know what to do
The more you create like this, the more you will discover that you know what to paint and that you can trust yourself. Your intuition will guide you to the precise experience you need to heal and grow. The power of intuition applies to much more than painting. When you bring what you learn about your intuition in painting circle into your parenting process, you will frequently find that you spontaneously know how to respond to your child, and that you can trust your parental intuition.
Generating Self-Love
This practice helps self-love grow. As you learn to allow the real you space on a piece of paper, you will notice your inner narrators gradually becoming kinder and more supportive, which has a good effect on the most important relationships in your life, as the way you talk to yourself has a big influence on how you talk to your child.
Space to get grounded
When you combine spending time with people who get you with honest creativity, time and space bend in helpful ways. Giving a few hours to making art with your people has a surprising effect: it actually gives you more emotional space and helps you feel grounded. And when you are grounded, your kids are more grounded.
What we will do together
We will start our slow paced time together with gentle movement and a one-song dance party followed by a sharing circle. After this, I will teach you the intuitive painting practice. To ensure a safer space, in these circles I teach and reinforce clear boundaries and social agreement based on best practices from intuitive art facilitation, transformative justice, and non-violent communication.
Every person who comes to these circles gets one-on-one support from me. I am intimately familiar with the challenges of authentic creativity and I trust your genius. I am here to support you and cheer you on.
When you register, you will receive a list of supplies, many of which you already have at home. This list makes it easy to order what you don’t have; all supplies I suggest don’t cost much.
Your first circle is always free, then afterwards you can choose whichever tier best fits your current means. No one is turned away from this circle for lack of funds.
To register for your free first circle, use the code PINKPONYCLUB during the checkout.